Born This Way

Hey Friends -

Happy 2nd day of 2012!! I've already blogged every day this year - what, what?! Yay me!!

Was it my "resolution to blog more" - Nope, not at all. I was just sitting on my couch last night remembering that in 2011 - and maybe even 2010 - I had said I would blog .. then I said I would blog more regularly. I haven't really done very well at that and I had stuff on my mind - so why not. Don't get used to it though, unless you have some fabulous ideas to send me to write about :)
 
It wasn't a "resolution" because I don't make "resolutions". I mean, I do think about the things I want to do/be/see in the upcoming year. But they are never any different from my everyday thoughts or goals. So I guess I could say I paint "vision boards" in my head of the way I see 2012. I think about all the things I try to do all year and push myself harder in January - but not "resolutions" per say.

So anyway. Here we go with my thoughts today.

My ONE wish for 2012. Well, I don't have ONE wish  - let's be real - but something I'd love to see happen. I would love for EVERYONE be more like THIS lady I am going to discuss below.

"The reality is they are pounding these words of ignorance and hate into the ears and minds of gay children every day. And those children are hearing them."

That is a quote from an article I saw linked on Facebook.  The article comes after a very real blog written by a mom about her 6 year old son who she believes is gay. A mom that I can only hope to be like one day if God ever wants me to have children. Love. True LOVE. THIS is the way every parent -  every person for that matter - should be!  If someones actions don't hurt you - then why care!! I'm not trying to push my beliefs on anyone. I don't care if you believe homosexuality is right or wrong. Everyone is entitled to an opinion. All I am saying is for those of you that oppose it - just think long and hard about why you really feel that way. Was it beaten into your head in church when you were little based on what that church believes the Bible says? Is it your small town ways? Do you think it's "gross"?  Maybe you believe you have a legit reason to feel the way you do. That is totally fine! But please don't "hate" these people or their lifestyle. No matter why you feel the way you do - no matter how much you think you are right - my wish is at the end of the day is that people will CARE LESS and LOVE MORE!!

Let people love and be with who they want to love and be with!! Why is it that two gay men can't have insurance together, can't have a child together, can't have a marriage license in most states - but someone who beats the crap out of their wife can?  Love is love. I wish that 2012 would be the year of equality. Wouldn't that be a BIG step in a world full of peace? A big step in teaching our children to love everyone - no matter their race or sexual orientation.

A girl can wish - right?

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“Mommy, they are just like me.” 

My oldest son is six years old and in love for the first time.  He is in love with Blaine from Glee. 

For those who don’t know Blaine is a boy…a gay boy, the boyfriend of one of the main characters, Kurt.

This isn’t a ‘he thinks Blaine is really cool’ kind of love.  It is a mooning at a picture of Blaine’s face for a half hour followed by a wistful “He’s so pretty” kind of love.

He loves the episode where two boys kiss.  My son will call people in from other parts of the house to make sure they don’t miss his ‘favorite part.’  He’s been known to rewind it and watch it over again…and force other to, as well, if he doesn’t think people have been paying enough attention.

This infatuation doesn’t bother me or his father.  We live in a very hip-liberal neighborhood, many of our friends are gay, and idea of having a gay son isn’t something that bothers either of us.  Our son is going to be who he is, and it is our job to love him.  End of story.

He is also six.  Six year olds get obsessed with all kinds of things.  This might not mean anything at all.  We always joke that he’s either gay, or we have the best blackmail material in the history of mankind when he’s a 16 year old straight boy. (Take that naked bath time pictures!)

Then the other day we were traveling across the state listening to the Warblers album (of course), and in the middle of Candles, my son pipes up from the back seat.

“Mommy, Kurt and Blaine are boyfriends.”

“Yes, they are,” I affirm.

“They don’t like kissing girls.  They just kiss boys.”

“That’s true.”

“Mommy, they are just like me.”

“That’s great, baby.  You know I love you no matter what?”

“I know…” I could hear him rolling his eyes at me.

When we got home I recapped this conversation to his Dad, and we stood simply looking into each other’s eyes for a moment.  Then we smiled.

“So if at 16 he wants to make a big announcement at the dinner table, we can say ‘You told us when you were six.  Pass the carrots’ and he’ll be disappointed we stole his big dramatic moment,” my husband says with a laugh and hugs me.

Only time will tell if my son is gay, but if he is I am glad he’s mine.  I am glad he has been born into our family.  A family full of people who will love and accept him.  People who will never want him to change.  With parents who will look forward to dancing at his wedding.

And I have to admit, Blaine would be a really cute son-in-law.

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Here is the link to the follow up article in the Huffington Post where you can also find a link to this ladies blog. 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/gay-children_b_954350.html

So beautiful.

Grace and Peace to you,
Stacy