Saturday, March 19, 2011

Listen .... really listen.

Hey Friends ...

Earlier this week and then even again today I got a reminder of what an irresponsible idiot someone from my past is.

I'd love to go into a nice long rant about this. After all, this is my little itty bitty tiny slice of the internet.  I pay for it ... it's MINE. So I guess I could if I wanted to. However it's really just not necessary.  Plus it's funnier to make people wonder "Is she talking about me" -- haha!

Anyway, I should have been pretty ticked off about the situation in general, but instead I took the moment to be remind myself how very GRATEFUL I am to be out of such a horrible relationship/situation. It made me really say THANK YOU God for giving me the life and stable relationships that I have today.

I didn't want to write this just for the hell of it. I wanted to write it because maybe there is someone out there that needed to see this today??

If so .. I've got two pieces of advice that I hope you take from it.

One -- you know that feeling in your gut, the one that you get when ever you ask yourself "Should I really do this"? Yeah it's usually NEVER wrong.

Two -- when NUMEROUS things happen to keep you from getting something or someone you THINK you want, don't take that as a sign that life is failing you, take it as "Hmmm, maybe God is trying really hard to protect me from something and I"m just not listening". A lot of times things/people are worth the "trouble" or "fight", but if you really tune into what is happening to keep you from getting what you want, many times you may see that it's Gods work!! God is throwing speed bumps at you to really get you to talk to him about what you are doing first.

If and only if I would have listened to my gut and opened up my mind up to the possibility that certain "speed bumps" were happening to me for a reason .. I so would be in a different position than I have been for the past several years!

It's so much easier said than done.  I know. I was faced with it recently even. I really wanted something sooooo bad and all these ironic things kept keeping me from getting what I wanted.  I was pretty disappointed. I let myself be a cry baby for a day or two but I knew I had to look at it and say, "It's okay because obviously it's not in God's plan. He's protecting me from something".


Grace and Peace to you,
Stacy

Saturday, March 12, 2011

Waste of a blog. Really. Skip (Challenge Day 16)

Hey Friends ..

I'm suppose to post the person that inspires me the most.

Well considering one of my non bucket list items was to be someone's inspiration you would think I have ONE person that inspires me more than anyone else.

Not that people in general don't inspire me.  They do.  But I can't think of one single person that I see as my "inspiration".

I feel like some of these "challenges" are sort of the same .. but different.  You know like when you take a survey or a test and they ask the same question and change the wording just enough to make you answer it differently maybe.

A lot of people inspire me in different ways.  But I guess I don't have one sole person I inspire the most.

Boring. Sorry.

Grace and peace to you,
Stacy

Friday, March 11, 2011

Bucket List ... (challenge day 15)

"You know, the ancient Egyptians had a beautiful belief about death. When their souls got to the entrance to heaven, the guards asked two questions. Their answers determined whether they were able to enter or not. ‘Have you found joy in your life?’ 'Has your life brought joy to others"?


Quote from the movie "The Bucket List". 




Hey Friends ..

For today's challenge I'm suppose to post a picture of something I want to do before I die.

Do you have a "Bucket List"?  I don't.  It kinda bothers me that I don't have one.  I'm not sure why?   Not why I don't have one, why it bothers me that I don't.
Maybe it's just that I don't desire something(s) so much that I would feel unfulfilled if I didn't do them before I died?  Heck, maybe I don't have drive, haha, I don't know.

I mean sure, there are things I want to do in life.  However most of them are totally unattainable so they can't really go on a "Bucket List" because then they will sit there and I'll be about to die and have like 3 things marked off. I guess that is my fear.  I don't want to "fail myself".  I fear if I make a list of things I really want to do before I die and I don't do them that I'll feel like I lived some unfulfilling life and that isn't true at all!

Just to throw some big ole "wants" out there.  Dreams shall I say.  Okay ... off the top of my head ... here we go.

 1. Write at least one book. Preferably several.
 2. Travel the world
 3. Own my own store of some sort.
 4. Win the lottery
 5. Have a massive rescue for cats (would require number 4 happening)
 6. Have a shoe closet that is 95% full of only Christian Louboutin
 7. Be someone's inspiration
 8. Have my own personal massage therapist. That I can call ANYTIME. I love massages.
 9. As much as I don't want them .. I guess have a baby? Or buy one. Ehh. Maybe not.
10. Instead of buying a house .. build my dream house from the bottom up :)
11. Have the patience to do number 10
12. Invent something really amazing that we wondered how we lived without.
13. Get a dog.  (I'm a cat person)
14. Run a marathon
15. Go on a trip that isn't for my pleasure but someone else's.  A relief effort after a disaster,etc
16. Write for a regular column for a popular magazine. I'm not picky as to which one.
17. Win an award I don't nominate myself for.
18. Save someone's life.  Not in a literal aspect necessarily
19. Have ALL my family together for something good.  Divorce, hate, awkwardness aside.
20. Eat mostly organic. For at least one year.


Some of you would say .. see you just wrote a "Bucket List".  But that isn't true. This is not my Bucket List. I want my Bucket List to be things that I know I COULD do if I really wanted/needed to. Some of these things are little ideas that I make up in my mind.  I'm good with that.  I know that some of these items are attainable :)

I guess as long as I do the two things in that quote above, no matter what the "things" are, I'll certainly die happy!

I'm curious though. What are your all's real "Bucket Lists" :)

Grace and peace to you,
Stacy

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Never wanna know ... (Challenge day 14)

Hey Friends ..

Today I'm suppose to post a pic of someone I could never imagine my life without.

This is so typical. I know, I know.  But it's the truth. My sweet man.

It's not that I can't imagine it, because I know and remember life before him very well. I know what it was like to not be in love, yet be in misery,or just float through life and relationships.  I am also a very independent person and am fully aware that I don't "need" anyone.  I'm sure I"d be perfectly capable on my own.
So technically I can imagine my life without him.  I just don't want to.  It's that simple.

He makes me complete. I make him complete.  WE work. Life without the other really isn't imaginable.

Grace and peace to you,
Stacy

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Errrr .. this challenge can ... $&@*

Well Friends ..

I am so very mad. Mad, mad, mad!!

My challenge today was to post about my favorite artist/band.  I spent all this time writing a really good blog and when I updated my blogging app all my posts (including any I had started but not finished) deleted!!!

So to answer the question, it's a toss up between Michael Jackson and Dolly Parton. However I  had the best MJ story ever.   I don't want it not working to hold up me doing this challenge ... eventually I'll come back and edit this post and tell you about my faboosh MJ story!  One day.

Grace and Peace To You,
Stacy

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

All we need is LoVe?! (challenge 12)

Hey Friends ...

Did Paul McCartney & John Lennon have it all figured out? Is love all we really need?

Todays challenge has me posting a picture of something I love. I'll do that at the end of the blog (yes it all ties together. I'm not just rambling). But first the question at hand.

The romantic in me wants to say YES-YES-YES!! Love is all we need!! Everyone wants to love and be loved and if we have that, we would all live happily ever after. Right?!

The realist in me knows the answer is ... Wrong! And the psychologist in me (yup, psych is one of my two college majors) REALLY knows better!!

We as humans have a problem differentiating being "in love" and what goes into having a loving *relationship*. Love can be pretty easy. Making a loving relationship really work oftentimes isn't. Think about all the people you love but don't have the most successful relationship with.

In terms of intimate love I have an overall effortless relationship with my significant other, but there are multiple things that it requires to make it more than just being "in love". While love may be the main ingredient, you need a lot of side dishes too!! Commitment ... Communication ... Consequence ... Faithfulness ... Trust ... Forgiveness ... Kindness ... Respect ... Patience ... selflessness ... only to name a few.

(I didn't even get into the fact that love can't provide you with the necessities of living and that in spiritual terms GOD'S love is all we really need).

So in all reality while love may be a necessary emotion for happiness, it's really NOT all we need. Sure wish it could be that simple.

Now these little guys on the other hand (which posting fulfills my challenge of a pic of something I love ... animals).
They really do just provide love.. and need someones love ... Well and a litter box :-)













Grace and peace to you,
Stacy

Monday, March 7, 2011

HATE (challenge 11)

Hey Friends,

Today I'm suppose to post a picture of something I hate.

I mean I have pet peeves and things I dislike. But overall I'd like to think my heart isn't filled with hate for people. I try really hard to eliminate that word from my vocabulary, however I can't lie there is hatred in my heart for some people.

I'll give this a shot though as far as "things" I hate -- I hate liquorish, driving in the rain, waiting on people, music while I wait, making decisions, the unknown, when people talk behind my back but not to my face, people that stare, when people dress like they are homeless and call it "fashion", people who wear too much make-up, free loaders, liars, bad listeners, bad coffee, folding/putting away laundry, when my space is a mess (work,home,car).
I am certain I have other little peeves. But that's what comes to mind.

With that, I will say the thing I hate most is FAKE PEOPLE. I'd love post a picture of this, but that would require me to post pictures of individual people and well I am afraid I'll leave someone out (tee-hee) :-)

Here is my rant on fake people.

I get that sometimes you may be required to put a filter on who you. Maybe it's due to work, out of respect for people you are around, etc, but people who are like chameleons and just blend into whoever they are currently hanging out with, or to impress someone, really get to me. People that pretend to be your friend but talk about you when you aren't around. People that are nice to you just to get what they want/need. I HATE fake people!!!

Why do you do it?! What's the point?

If I don't like you -- trust me, you'll know!! I either tell ya or don't speak at all.
If I think you are using me, eventually I'll let ya have it.
If I have something to say about you I'll happily say it to your face.
If I feel something - I express it.

I've been told I tend to be a little too abrasive in this department. Sorry, that's just who I am.
I am not gonna pretend to like someone to save face, or simply keep the peace. I'd rather keep my mouth and say NOTHING than give hugs, handshakes and "omg how are you's" to someone who makes my skin crawl!!

I'm by no means perfect ... but fake ... I am not!

What do you "hate".

Grace and Peace to you,
Stacy

Sunday, March 6, 2011

Oh Shizzy ... (challenge day 10)

Hey friends ...

Challenge is to post a pic of the person I get into the most **** with.

This is my best friend.




I know. Not the likely match. Most girls have a girl best friend. Don't get me wrong, I do have girl best friends and I love them dearly. I just have this strange..deep..God sent friendship with this guy.

He has a name. But I call him Sully.

I'd certainly say I get into the most ***** with him. We never do anything outlandish, un-classy or illegal (well ... not that we know of).
I mean some people probably look at us on some of our shenanigans and think there is something wrong with us. That's ok. We don't care.

Sometimes our fun consists of him coming over on laundry night and hanging out (teaching me folding techniques for mens undies) ...texting about work, boys, life ... going gay bar hopping ... hanging out at our other "home" ... Dancing the night away ... Him tagging along with me to target ... Etc.

We call our fun "The Adventures Of Stacy and Sully".

Watch for the book. Or our reality show :-)

Grace and Peace to you,
Stacy

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Shoulder to lean on ... (challenge day 9)

Hey Friends,

For the 9th day of this challenge I'm suppose to post a picture of the person who has helped me get through the most.

Without Gods guidance I'd be lost. I've had so many people come in and out of my life, but he's the only consistent one I've always had.

In terms of people here on earth, my cat Gizmo has kept me pretty sane. Seriously,I've had him for 9 years and he's been with me through all my phases of "adulthood". My first "real job" and big girl move away from home, my first marriage, my first divorce (haha). He loves me all the time. Well unless I forget to clean out his litter....then he pees on stuff.

I may not have had many other consistent people in my life (other than a couple family members) but I know who that person will be for the rest of my life.....My sweet man. We've only known each other a few years but it feels as if we've been connected for an eternity.

Grace and Peace to you,
Stacy

Friday, March 4, 2011

Bahahahaha (challenge day 8)

Hey friends ..

I love to laugh and to hear people laugh. Laughs are just about as unique as fingerprints. Everyones laugh is so different.

Laughter has all sorts of perks. Research proves that when we have the ability to laugh at life, and our circumstances, we are much less likely to give in to depression and a feeling of helplessness. Doctors even say happy people generally don't get as sick.

Today's challenge is to post a pic that makes me laugh. I was gonna post a pic of my friend that always makes me laugh. But instead I went through my mobile pics and found this one.....




Look close. It's Jesus... holding a dinosaur. Laugh. You know it's funny.
At the end of the night when the lights came on and it was time for people to leave this venue,THIS is what the video guy projected this on the wall.
Not out of disrespect, just to make people laugh. I did. It was just funny...so I took a pic. I laughed then. Laughing now.

Point of the blog today... lighten up!! Laugh at yourself and with (not at) others! We need to start looking for ways to increase our laughter. Research says the average adult only laughs 17 times a day (compared to a kid who can laugh up to 400 in a day).

What happens to us as we age?

Grace and peace to you,
Stacy

PS

Hope you aren't offended at the pic. Its not intended to disrespect Christianity. If you are offended, re-read this entries message and LIGHTEN UP! If you are still offended .. I don't care... this is my slice of the internet. Don't read it then :-) God had quite the sense humor. Bet he's laughing. (yes I had to post this cause yes some random reader will be offended)

Thursday, March 3, 2011

If my house was on fire ..... (challenge day 7)

Hey Friends,

This challenge is impossible. I'm suppose to post a picture of my most treasured item.

I tried to think if my house was on fire what I'd grab. Aside from Doug and my cats ... I don't have ONE thing. I have several sentimental items and there is NO way I could pick one over another.

I have: Quilts my granny made me .. Some of my grandparents jewelry .. Certain gifts from Doug .. A painting I had done that uses my grannies broken china .. Pictures .. A cassette tape with the voice of my grandparents on it ...

Materialisticly thinking ... The one item I can't live without is my ... iPhone.

This was a boring blog. Sorry!

Grace and peace to you,
Stacy

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

One Day (challenge day 6)

Hey Friends,

I'm suppose to post a picture of the person I would like to trade places with for a day.

This is easy.




PINK (pre-pregnancy)

I mean who wouldn't want a full day to be a super bad a** rocker, say whatever you want and people still love you AND sing upside down in the air?! Umm, ME!!

Grace and peace to you,
Stacy

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Memories.... (challenge day 5)

Hey Friends,

Today's challenge is to post a pic of my favorite memory.

Well -- this sure is a challenge because my life is blessed with so many wonderful memories. I have favorites from all chapters of my life, so picking one would be pretty unfair.

Many of my favorite moments are also listed in the favorite "day" blog. Things like birthdays, holidays, meeting the ppl I love, buying my house, leaving for college, moving, my first real job, the first time I drove, etc.

But if I must choose ONE memory-- it's a cluster of memories.
The days I spent with my Granny Taylor are the most memorable.




This pic has my sister in it. My granny is holding me as a baby on the left. She is part of many wonderful memories.

From simple things like her "spot" in the living room, her favorite shows we'd watch and talk about, our long talks, her elaborate grocery lists coordinated by what store had which item on sale,her garden, her amazing cooking, sunday after church lunch, being awakened on a saturday mng to a knock on my door saying she made her famous biscuits and gravy. I could literally go on and on.

Then there are the more specific memories -- like walking in her house and seeing her for the first time after I'd been in a horrible car accident and in the hospital for a week. She had made alllll of my favorite foods and they were in containers in the fridge. And Holidays. Holidays are so vivid.

Thoughts of my granny. Being at her house...Being surrounded by her love are moments I reflect back on often. They are my favorite.

Grace and peace to you,
Stacy